"Magodang children, pangolihononhon, magodang pahutaon Boru (pamulion)"Meaning: If your son is an adult, he will be looked for his wife (married) and if the daughter was growing up, he deserves a husband (her husband live in the village).Text: Ratri SuyaniBatak society, not least in major cities including Jakarta, are still holding strong cultural values. Starting from the kinship system, through customs (including Ruhut paradaton in custom event starting from infancy, childhood, adolescence, marriage and death) is maintained in everyday life. Here Weddingku describe the sequence of wedding customs in the society especially the Batak Toba Batak are commonly used primarily in the city of Jakarta and other big cities in Indonesia, ranging from nausea patiur baba ni (please blessing) to marunjuk (wedding).
A. NI BABA PATIUR NAUSEA (and please excuse me blessing Bone)The procession is the first step undertaken by the parents against the hula-hula (the origin of the wife's clan) before his son married. According to custom, the daughter of bone (male siblings from the mother) is the first mate of his son. If a spouse is chosen instead of the daughter of the bone, then the parents need to bring his son's permission and blessing beg of bone. Indigenous uses only the first son to be married.
B. MARHORI-Hori DINGDING (family introductions are closed)A few months before the wedding, the family man (paranak / pangoli) visited the family of the woman (parboru / oroan) with the intent to introduce ourselves and set a date and day for the application. Marhori-hori dingding only done by the nuclear family, because according to the mean (marhori = communicate, dingding = wall) meeting was held in an intimate and enclosed. Was quite a treat that was delivered in the form of cakes or fruit.
C. MARHUSIP (negotiating secretly) & PATUA Hata (formally apply):Some time later, the results of a hori-hori talks dingding then held a more formal talks between close relatives (not to involve outsiders). Neither party nor parboru paranak king, accompanied by their respective peoples. Paranak party came to the family by bringing sipanganon parboru (food & beverage). In this event the present paranak Tudu-Tudu sipanganon (food in the form head pinahan Lobu / pig or buffalo) and the parboru give dengke (goldfish).
Events marhusip usually directly coupled with the events that apply officially headed by the king's customs. The event is called patua hata which literally means increasing the level of agreement that no longer involve only two young couples alone but has risen to the level of agreement among parents.
In the event, discussed in detail the customs which will be implemented. Among others:
* Marhata sinamot (negotiate the dowry / bride price)Includes discussion of the amount and form sinamot (dowry money) to be provided by the paranak, and panjuhuti (type of livestock to be cut) are now defined parboru parties. In the past, provided the cattle panjuhuti paranak and is part of sinamot.
* Ulos amount that will be given to the parties parboru paranak (ulos herbang)Currently in the Greater Jakarta area is usually limited by the number ulos the elders of the indigenous so that the wedding is not too wordy. Usually the maximum number of 17 or 18 ulos, but can still be negotiated amicably.
* Martumpol and place and date of marriagePlace a wedding can be held in the bride (dialap sale) or where the groom (tahuron sell). If a party held in place paranak, then the parties are not required to bring sibuha paranak-buhai (serving in the morning on the day). Sale of rice (the pear ni Tondi Boras) and dengke siuk (fish arsik / pepes) as congenital relatives paranak party will switch to the parboru as bolahan Amak or host.
* The large number of invitations from both sidesDuring the last hata patua marhusip and both families seated facing each other and the bride and groom are usually "hidden" in advance or not involved, until the end of the show then they are called to be introduced to the entire family and given a cue / direction. Before the show closed normally distributed-ingot ingot money to the families whose number varies, depending on the person's position in a custom order.
D. MARTUMPOLApproval of the proclamation or announcement of the marriage as well as through religious institutions (churches, mosques, etc.). When done in the church HKBP (Huria Kristen Batak Protestant) then preaching (usually called Tingting) performed at least 2 times in 2 consecutive weeks. If no party objected / sued, then the wedding can be held.
E. MARTONGGO KING AND MARY KINGAfter martumpol, usually followed by a conversation at home each party called martonggo king (in the family parboru) and maria the king (in the family paranak). This talk discusses in detail the procession of traditional D-day, especially the involvement of each of the families of personnel (dongan sahuta), such as who is responsible for giving and receiving ulos, and things that have been agreed in previous marhusip event(weddingku.com).
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