Adat Palembang Wedding

10 Elements of Traditional :
Is the fraction that can be found in a series of Adat Palembang wedding procession. Being a very interesting fact when modernization and minimalist era has permeated almost every facet of life, including marriage procession, there are still some people who remain true to the tradition and culture. It's also proof that the grandeur timeless customs consumed time, and knows no social status of individuals.Text: Mary Djajaputra

1. Investigation TO THE GIRL
Prospective bride still must be "investigated" by the family of candidate messenger boys. Meaning of the word "accurate" instead of symbolizing suspicion, but the approach taken by the family of the prospective groom and ensure that the prospective bride no one has been proposed. The procession is known as Madik, derived from the Javanese Kawi which means approaching or approach.
2. THE GIRL fenceAfter Madik process is successful, then the prospective bride "fenced". This traditional process called Menyenggung or Senggung derived from Old Javanese, meaning "fence". The procession is intended that the girl would not be bothered anymore by senggung (countryman weasel) as a metaphor not to be disturbed by other males.Families of the men sent an official delegation to the family of the girl by bringing tenong (basket conduction) or sangkek made of woven bamboo is round or square was embroidered batik cloth wrapped gold filled with food, can also be eggs, flour, or butter according to circumstancesthe girl's family.
3. BINDING GIRLWhen senggung process has reached the target, the family of the man still had to go back again to bring tenong as much as 3 pieces, each containing flour, sugar, and duck eggs. With the traditional process of this desperate, it means that both families have Nemuke Kato or agreed that the girl had been "bound" by the male. As a sign of the bond between them, the men gave another gift in the form of cloth, clothing materials, or valuable objects such as rings, necklaces, or bracelets.
4. Deliberation AMONG BIG FAMILYProcess called Berasan is derived from the Malay word meaning deliberation. These two large families will be asked to determine what part of women and what will be provided by the male. This is a chance the girls are introduced to the family of man. Berasan atmosphere enlivened by the rhyme and exchange pleasantries. After the banquet, both the families to determine all the requirements of marriage, both customary and religious ordinances. When this is set the day of the Mutuske Kato.
5. DETERMINING REQUIREMENTS AND PROCEDURES FOR IMPLEMENTATION OF MARRIAGEIf you agree based on the Shari'a religious, meaning both parties agree on a dowry or dowry. Meanwhile, according to custom, the two parties will agree on what is customary to be implemented, because each has its own equipment and requirements.
6. DETERMINING THE DAY WEDDING AND munggahThat is right at the moment was beautiful moonlight shining on the earth, in order to light a torch of life the bride and groom. This traditional process called Mutuske Kato, ie when the family decided Nganterke Belanjo Day, Wedding Day, munggah, Nyemputi and Nganter Bride, Ngalie Turon, Bercacap or Bath Simburan or Beratib. At this traditional process, the family man came to the woman with a 7 tenong containing sugar, flour, duck eggs, bananas and other fruits. In addition to making some decisions, the men also provide custom requirements agreed at the event Berasan. Kato Mutuske closed with a salvation prayer and supplication to God that the implementation of the marriage runs smoothly. Proceed with the prostration of bride to prospective in-laws, which rewarded by giving gold as a sign of love. When the envoys of the men wanted to go home, 7 tenong the men exchanged by the women with the typical Palembang stuffing various snacks to take home.
7. Hand-over junkTraditions like this Javanese tradition, called Nganterke Belanjo. The procession was mostly done by women, while men just accompany it. Gegawaan form the so-called Society of Palembang as "customary ngelamar", carried by the male (as agreed) for the women, among others, in the form of a yellow color ponjen belanjo contains money (spending money) are placed in trays, an over-sized yellow ponjen contains a small escort money money belanjo, 24 ponjen the leberukuran smaller and yellow coins containing metal as a bridesmaid belanjo money, a piece of shawl songket, baju kurung songket, a yellow color ponjen containing money "weigh the bride", 12 trays of variouskinds of consumer goods a party, and flower-covered cluster of embroidered lace fabric. In addition, also delivered enjukan or request a predetermined time Mutuske Kato, namely in the form of one of the conditions customary marriage according to agreement implementation.
8. PERFORMING RITUALBride and groom usually do some ritual that is believed efficacious for health and beauty, and also the symbol of the magical influence of traditional beliefs. The series begins the ritual of betanggas the steam bath, then there bebedak, then dating, which is given a girlfriend (a type kutek) in all fingernails and toenails, as well as palms and soles of the feet called the seam. Red at the boyfriend impression useful to repel all types of spirits, and his own girlfriend is believed to have magical powers to give fertility to the bride.
9. PUTTING INTO HUSBAND WIFE PAIR The ceremony is meant as a sign of entering the married life. According to the customary rules, it should be conducted at home prospective bridegroom. But according to the developmental period, commonly referred to as the ceremony ceremony ceremony can be performed on the prospective bride's house and said to be "married passengers". Condition, if the ceremony takes place before the event munggah, the first female party delegates nganterke dagger into the man's residence.

10.Harmonizing SECONDThe ceremony is the culmination of a series of events Adat Palembang marriage involves a lot of the bride and groom's family, invited guests attended the event held at the residence of the bride's family. This is called munggah, which means that the bride and groom married life is always balanced or sympathy, harmony, and peace.
Source : weddingku.com

Adat Batak Wedding

The uniqueness of Adat Batak Wedding
"Magodang children, pangolihononhon, magodang pahutaon Boru (pamulion)"Meaning: If your son is an adult, he will be looked for his wife (married) and if the daughter was growing up, he deserves a husband (her husband live in the village).Text: Ratri SuyaniBatak society, not least in major cities including Jakarta, are still holding strong cultural values. Starting from the kinship system, through customs (including Ruhut paradaton in custom event starting from infancy, childhood, adolescence, marriage and death) is maintained in everyday life. Here Weddingku describe the sequence of wedding customs in the society especially the Batak Toba Batak are commonly used primarily in the city of Jakarta and other big cities in Indonesia, ranging from nausea patiur baba ni (please blessing) to marunjuk (wedding).
A. NI BABA PATIUR NAUSEA (and please excuse me blessing Bone)The procession is the first step undertaken by the parents against the hula-hula (the origin of the wife's clan) before his son married. According to custom, the daughter of bone (male siblings from the mother) is the first mate of his son. If a spouse is chosen instead of the daughter of the bone, then the parents need to bring his son's permission and blessing beg of bone. Indigenous uses only the first son to be married.

B. MARHORI-Hori DINGDING (family introductions are closed)A few months before the wedding, the family man (paranak / pangoli) visited the family of the woman (parboru / oroan) with the intent to introduce ourselves and set a date and day for the application. Marhori-hori dingding only done by the nuclear family, because according to the mean (marhori = communicate, dingding = wall) meeting was held in an intimate and enclosed. Was quite a treat that was delivered in the form of cakes or fruit.
C. MARHUSIP (negotiating secretly) & PATUA Hata (formally apply):Some time later, the results of a hori-hori talks dingding then held a more formal talks between close relatives (not to involve outsiders). Neither party nor parboru paranak king, accompanied by their respective peoples. Paranak party came to the family by bringing sipanganon parboru (food & beverage). In this event the present paranak Tudu-Tudu sipanganon (food in the form head pinahan Lobu / pig or buffalo) and the parboru give dengke (goldfish).
Events marhusip usually directly coupled with the events that apply officially headed by the king's customs. The event is called patua hata which literally means increasing the level of agreement that no longer involve only two young couples alone but has risen to the level of agreement among parents.
In the event, discussed in detail the customs which will be implemented. Among others:

* Marhata sinamot (negotiate the dowry / bride price)Includes discussion of the amount and form sinamot (dowry money) to be provided by the paranak, and panjuhuti (type of livestock to be cut) are now defined parboru parties. In the past, provided the cattle panjuhuti paranak and is part of sinamot.
* Ulos amount that will be given to the parties parboru paranak (ulos herbang)Currently in the Greater Jakarta area is usually limited by the number ulos the elders of the indigenous so that the wedding is not too wordy. Usually the maximum number of 17 or 18 ulos, but can still be negotiated amicably.
* Martumpol and place and date of marriagePlace a wedding can be held in the bride (dialap sale) or where the groom (tahuron sell). If a party held in place paranak, then the parties are not required to bring sibuha paranak-buhai (serving in the morning on the day). Sale of rice (the pear ni Tondi Boras) and dengke siuk (fish arsik / pepes) as congenital relatives paranak party will switch to the parboru as bolahan Amak or host.
* The large number of invitations from both sidesDuring the last hata patua marhusip and both families seated facing each other and the bride and groom are usually "hidden" in advance or not involved, until the end of the show then they are called to be introduced to the entire family and given a cue / direction. Before the show closed normally distributed-ingot ingot money to the families whose number varies, depending on the person's position in a custom order.
D. MARTUMPOLApproval of the proclamation or announcement of the marriage as well as through religious institutions (churches, mosques, etc.). When done in the church HKBP (Huria Kristen Batak Protestant) then preaching (usually called Tingting) performed at least 2 times in 2 consecutive weeks. If no party objected / sued, then the wedding can be held.
E. MARTONGGO KING AND MARY KINGAfter martumpol, usually followed by a conversation at home each party called martonggo king (in the family parboru) and maria the king (in the family paranak). This talk discusses in detail the procession of traditional D-day, especially the involvement of each of the families of personnel (dongan sahuta), such as who is responsible for giving and receiving ulos, and things that have been agreed in previous marhusip event(weddingku.com).

Traditional Javanese wedding customs

Ceremonies before the wedding :
Splash of water 
Flush spray of origin of the word, it means bath. The day before the wedding, both prospective bride is bathed sanctified by the so-called SIRAMAN Ceremony.Prospective bride is bathed at home parents, as well as the prospective groom also be bathed at home parents. Things that need to be prepared for the splash of water: Site preparation for the spray, whether carried out house bathroom or back or side yard. List of people who would come to bathe. As per tradition other than the parents bride, bride grandparent, some pinisepuh. Are invited to participate are those who bathe already old, you should already have grandchildren and had a reputation of a good life. A number of items needed such as: a water bottle, bucket, chair, flower setaman, fabrics, towels, jars, etc.. The offerings for the spray, there are more than ten kinds, such as a rooster. The family bride He sent a bowl of water to the family of the groom. The water is called the holy water perwitosari means the juice of life, namely water mixed with several kinds of flowers, placed in a nice container, to be mixed with water to bathe the groom.
The last party the bride is bathed Pemaes, which watered the prospective bride view of water from a pitcher. When the jug was empty, Pemaes or a designated pinisepuh, slammed the jug on the floor saying, Wis. broken pamore.artinya prospective bride is beautiful or handsome is now ready to mate. Ceremony spray finish and the prospective bride to wear batik motifs grompol cloth covered his body with a cloth and batik motif nagasari, led back princess bride chamber pelaminan.Calon be scraped by Pemaes.

Ceremony Ngerik 
Ngerik means small hairs diwajah prospective bride carefully scraped by pemaes.Rambut bride dried and then smoked with hundred / incense scent. Begin to make up the prospective bride makeup. His face makeup and her hair coiled in accordance with the pattern of marriage ceremonies that have been determined.
When he finished, the bride dressed in a nice kebaya which has been prepared and batik fabrics and sidoasih sidomukti motif, symbolizing he will prosper and be respected by others.
That night, father and bride's mother gives to her daughter last bite, because starting tomorrow, he is under the responsibility of her husband.
The offerings for the same offerings ngerik spray. So for practical, all the offerings spray chamber was brought in the aisle and become offerings for ngerik. 


Ceremony Midodareni 
At the ceremony which took place at night midodareni before Ijab and Temu Manten / Panggih in the next day, both parents and their prospective groom groom, escorted by his close family, home visiting the parents would be bride.

Bride's room after the makeup aisle, look beautiful like widodari, fairy, goddess of heaven.
According to ancient belief, that night bride was accompanied by some beautiful goddess of heaven. That night he had to stay bedroom and can not sleep from the hours of the afternoon until the middle malam.Beberapa 6/enam elderly mother to accompany and provide valuable advice.
The prospective groom's family a woman, who came at night midodareni, should see the prospective bride who was dressed up pretty, ready to get married the next day.
As per custom, wedding there's room for the ceremony midodareni special offerings, there are eleven kinds of food and goods; besides there are other kinds of goods 7/tujuh.

Ceremony outside the wedding room 
Midodareni night, parents and family of the prospective bride, received a visit from the parents and families of the prospective groom. They sat inside the house, become acquainted and dine together. Prospective groom also come, but he should not go home and just be sitting diserambi front of the house. He too is only treated to a glass of water, should not eat or drink that supposedly lain.Ini patience to train a husband and head of the family.

Srah-srahan or Peningsetan 
In a ceremony midodareni, can be done srah-srahan or Peningsetan. (In ancient times, Peningsetan done before the night midodareni). Parents and family of the prospective groom to give some stuff to the parents of the prospective bride.
Singset Peningsetan of the word, that bind tightly, in which case the commitment will be a marriage between the sons and daughters of both parties and the parents will be the bride-laws.
Giving it be: A set of ordered ayu as a symbol of genuine hope in order to gain salvation. A set of clothes for the bride, including some batik fabrics with motifs that symbolize life's happiness. Should not miss a Stagen, a white cloth belt is a big and long, as a sign of strength tekad.Beberapa crop al rice, sugar, salt, cooking oil, fruits, etc. as pralambang adequacy and prosperous life for a new family ..
A pair of wedding rings for the bride and groom. On this occasion, the groom gave a sum of money, as a contribution to the implementation of the ceremony perkawinan.Ini mere formality, because urunan money already given away the day before.
After dining together and become acquainted, the whole family group of parents said goodbye to his bride home.They need to prepare for tomorrow is an important implementation of the marriage ceremony included a religious wedding, ceremony, etc. manten customary meeting.
Note: According to the customary marriage Surakarta, when the party guests leave home, host parties provide angsul-angsulan, in the form of fruits, pastries and a set of bride dress to wear tomorrow man. In customary marriage Yogyakarta style, no-angsulan angsul. 


Nyantri 
As the entourage family guy bride midodareni home from the ceremony, the prospective groom are also invited to participate pulang.Tetapi, when the prospective groom Nyantri, so he left home mertuanya.Tentu Nyantri candidates have previously discussed and approved by both parties. Here's how governance: the prospective groom's parents through a family spokesman told the parents the bride, the groom is invited to come home and handed over responsibility to the parents of bride.
After the family left, middle of the night he was invited into the house to eat, can not meet his future wife and then escorted back to the room to sleep for the rest.
Nyantri implemented for a practical standpoint, given that tomorrow morning he had to be dressed for the implementation of the consent granted / marriage. Also for the security of marriage, both bride was in one place

Implementation Ijab 

Consent is the most important thing to legalize a marriage.Consent or marriages conducted in accordance with the religious affiliation of both the bride, can be Islam, Christianity, Catholicism, Hinduism, Buddhism, Confucianism.
Now, residents Penghayat Belief in One God, marriage is also recognized as legitimate by the state in accordance with the Law of the Republic of Indonesia Number 23 Year 2006 concerning Population Administration and the Government of the Republic of Indonesia Number 37 Year 2007 on Implementation of Law Number 23 Year 2006 onPopulation Administration.
Preparations for the wedding / Ijab, must be really careful, so smoothly and safely.
After Ijab completed, meaning that the bride was legitimate as husband and wife. Sure it's heart "plong", parents and families on both sides was also relieved. 


Ceremony Panggih or Temu bride. 
The ceremony is traditionally held Panggih or Intersection bride bride at home parents.
At the appointed time, the groom escorted by his brothers unless both parents are not present in this ceremony, the bride arrived in front of the house and stopped in front of the door. Meanwhile, the bride escorted by her brothers and followed his parents, to meet the arrival of the groom's party and quit the house next door

In front of the bride, two little girls called broken carry a fan.Two young boys or two mothers, each bearing a series of special interest whose names twin mothers mayang.Seorang bridesmaids Sanggan men forward and give to the bride's mother as a mark of respect for the solemnization of marriage. Sanggan It was a banana, carefully wrapped in banana leaves and put on the tray.
At the time of the ceremony Panggih, Mayang twins were taken out of the house and dumped diperempatan street near the house or near the course of the marriage ceremony, a ceremony meant to be run safely and no interference of any kind and from any party.

Balangan order 
Both bride and meet face to face at a distance of about two or three yards, both stop and deftly tossed bond which is filled with betel leaf betel leaf and tied with thread. This so-called ritual Balangan order.
Both bride earnestly at each other with a smile, accompanied by all parties who witnessed the excitement.According to ancient belief, betel leaves have the power to expel evil spirits. So by throwing betel leaves, the bride and groom wedding is really true, not false. 


Ritual Wiji Dadi 

The groom stepping on a chicken egg to split with her right foot, then the feet are washed by the bride with flower water.
Pralambang it: households headed by a responsible husband with a good wife, would generate a good thing too, including offspring.
The ritual of breaking the egg is there another version of Yogyakarta, its implementation as follows:
Bride and groom standing face to face right. The groom's right foot washed with water flowers by the bride with the squat stance. Bride makeup as mentors ceremony, holding the chicken's egg in the hands of the egg by cosmetic kanannya.Ujung placed on the forehead of the groom and bride on the forehead then wanita.Kemudian egg was broken by a pile of makeup on flowers that are in between the bride and groom This depiction of the bride and groom are steady in one mind, conscious love each other a happy home to foster prosperous and produce offspring of the good 


Ritual Rich Kacar Kucur or Tampa. 
A bride and groom with arm in arm with his little finger walking toward the front krobongan, where the ceremony rich tampa diadakan.Upacara Kucur Kacar illustrates: husband gave all his earnings to his wife. In this ritual the husband gives to his wife: peanuts, soybeans, rice, corn, rice yellow, dlingo Bengle, several kinds of flowers and coins by the number genap.Istri accept with all my heart with a piece of white cloth placed over a mat that is placed above the old lap. This means that the wife would be a good housewife and be careful
Note: In olden times, a ritual rich tampa, dhahar kembul etc., was done in front of the existing krobongan disenthong middle (middle room of the old houses is usually used to make offerings). At present, the ritual is still held even though the marriage ceremony was held digedung meeting or hotel. Bride seats behind the decor is wood carving shaped krobongan. This is to keep abreast of the times and while still preserving the tradition.

Ritual Dhahar Klimah or Dhahar Kembul

In the presence of parents and close relatives of the bride, bride and groom eat together, feed each other.Bridegroom makes three clod of yellow rice with side dishes of fried eggs, tempeh, soy, shredded, chicken liver.Then he fed to his wife, then his wife fed her husband's dressing, topped with sweet tea together. This represents that from now on they will use and enjoy together what they have.

Mertui or Mapag-laws
Both parents pick up the bride groom's parents in front of the house (to pick him up in front of the room digedung wedding venue for the ritual) and let them enter the house / room where the ceremony, then they walked together toward the place of the ceremony. The mothers walked in front, the gentlemen accompanied from behind. Both parents of the groom is seated left of the bride, parents, the bride sits on the right bride.

Ceremony Sungkeman 
A bride and groom do sungkem to both sides of parents. At first the parents of the bride and the groom's parents.Sungkem is a sincere form of respect to parents and pinisepuh.
At the time sungkem (saluting with a squat position, palms together to worship and kiss the knees that are sungkemi), a dagger worn off first groom and held by cosmetic, after completion sungkem, dagger worn.
Parents to receive the homage of sungkem emotion of her daughter and son at the same time also gave his blessing to both of them lead a life in harmony, prosperity. Without words, the actual parents of the bride has given her blessing symbolized the subject of batik cloth whose pattern truntum, meaning Have the fortune that was enough for a living. Both parents also use a big belt with a pattern whose name sindhur image with a curved-line curve, meaning that parents warned her children to always act cautiously, wisely in real life in this world.

Other Rituals
The ceremonies of the above is the prevailing tradition in Yogyakarta, Surakarta and other areas there are still other additional rituals.

Sindhur Binayang After the ritual Wiji Dadi, the father of the bride to walk in front of the bride into the bridal chair in front of krobongan, while the bride's mother walked behind the bride, her shoulders covered with a cloth sindhur the bride and groom. It symbolizes, the father shows the way to happiness, the mother supports.

Balanced Both the bride together sitting lap bride's father. After pondering for a moment, my father said: Same weight, meaning that the father loved them both, together, are not distinguished.

Tanem Furthermore, the father of a bride and groom sat in a chair Mahligai marriage. It to strengthen its approval of the marriage and gave his blessing.

Bubak Crater Bride's father, after the ceremony Panggih, drinking salad degan / young coconut in front of krobongan. His wife asks: How did Mr. taste? Answered: Well refreshed, hopefully someone at home is also fresh. Then his wife joined the drink tasted a bit of the same glass, followed by child and last son of the bride. It is a symbol of the petition so that the bride be blessed with offspring.
Tumplak Punjen This ritual is done by parents who marry off his daughter for the last time. Tumplak means pour or to give all parents Punjen is property that has been collected since they were married.
In this ritual, the parents are happy, krobongan front, giving his (Punjen) to all children and descendants. Symbolically to each given a small package that contains spices, saffron rice, coins of gold, bronze and copper, etc..
By holding Tumplak Punjen, parents want to set an example to their descendants, that they have full duty and that of future generations has always menyukuri gift of God and able to perform his duties properly.
Rates Kalpika Bride and groom to exchange rings as a sign of love and attachment to the legitimate husband and wife.
Marriage Reception 
 After a whole series of marriage ceremony was completed, a reception, where both the new bride, flanked on both sides of parents, received congratulations from the guests.
In the reception, attendees are welcome to eat meals that have been provided, while hospitable with relatives and acquaintances. Sometimes, before the reception starts, held performances of classical Javanese dance fragments suitable for marriage as fragments or dance Karonsih Pergiwo Gatotkaca, who described the loving relationship of women and men(http://jagadkejawen.com).